Lucky When On Call

Just found my car dome light on…yipes!  The car started and I am so glad I found this out before the battery went dead.

This would be a major crisis if I had to go out in the middle of the night, eh?

Thank you God!

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Some Folks

Some folks are just not ready to move in to hospice theory of care.  There is a dilemma in their thought process, perhaps it is just plain old grief, that prevents them from seeing the beauty and the help that comes with end of life care.

One sure fact is that families/clients whom are not accepting of their prognosis or the theory of hospice care should not be pushed in to any decision to sign on to a hospice team.

One goal in hospice care is to help, to partner, to come along side their journey of end of life issues…NOT to fight against or NOT to have to pull or push the hearts and minds of people.  Death will come whether some one is on hospice or not.

When some folks are just not ready…they are just not ready.


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Will to Live

How in the world can a human being have an insatiable desire to live when in the midst of horrendous disease processes?  The supernatural drive to press through limitations, pain, fatigue and humility is amazing to observe.

Watching the families who live along side of a person with an unusual will to live also is amazing.  They usually get just as fatigued and have strong emotional fluctuations anticipating the inevitable.

The part that is so great to anticipate is how this Will to Live, this supernatural energy will be a part of a person’s legacy.  Stories will be told, probably with humorous exaggeration and hopefully the sadness and fear will have been washed away.


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First Book Published

Here’s a really neat story in my life! I have just brought home the first 100 printed books of Conversations: Living Through the Process of Dying. A book I wrote to help people talk about their wishes and needs when they are at the end of their life.

My website will be up and running in a couple of weeks. You will be able to order this book on that site.

My hope is that individuals will read it and that hospice organizations and schools will use it as a tool for teaching and talking about the sacred act of dying.

Conversations: Living Through the Process of Dying
by me, Jackie J Bates RN CHPN

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Are they for loss?

I’d venture to say every failure is a stepping stone closer to a dream come true. If not a dream, perhaps getting closer to a goal or a vision.  We ALL have points in time where the result of “failure” applies to our lives.

What will we do with the information of “failed?”  I can tell you I had one this week and I said, “NO!  LET ME TURN THE CLOCK BACK AND TRY AGAIN!”  But, no such luck, time ticked on and the record was in the books.  ARGH…

Yet…the emotions are passing, plan B is coming in to the picture and life is definitely going on.  Regroup and press through…thank you anyone that encouraged me along the way.




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Medical Mentors

Certain people at certain times make impacts on our way of thinking, what we pursue as a career, how we approach a problem and how we resolve through our mistakes.

My nursing career mentors are Mom, Jan, Kris, Etta, Pam, and Mandy… if you ever see my blog and this entry, please know your input and labors in my life have not gone unnoticed.

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Hospice Nurses

Some times there comes along a hospice nurse that “just has it.”  Over the past 6 years of working in end of life care I have gotten to see those types of nurses in action.  It is amazing and brings a feeling of security to my profession.

Where does this come from?  Of-course experience in nursing and end of life care nurtures the nurses abilities.  Mentors for us in the field make a huge impact on each other’s successes, but there seems to be a born for this kind of work quality.

One piece that is a for sure though, even the nurse born for this kind of work will make mistakes.  The mistake is valuable when they are learned from.

If you ever get to meet this nurse, have him or her as your hospice nurse or have a friend in this line of care…soak it up, ask questions, let them care for you!

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